Window of Tolerance Guides
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Fostering Self-Regulation Following Sexual Abuse
My surname, Kerr, is thought to originate with the Gaelic caerr, which means “left.” Many of my ancestors, the Clan Kerr of Scotland, were left-handed (and I am too), which led to the Scottish expression Kerr-fisted to describe a left-handed...
Making Sense of Senselessness
Traumatic experiences like sexual abuse leave us with more than flashbacks and symptoms like depression and anxiety. They impact our self-concept and how we make sense of our place in the world. Many of us wonder: What kind of person am I for this to have happened to...
Shrine to the Ambivalent Goddess (poem)
Cast of Sagrado Corazón: The fiery sacred heart Image of Dove in Flight: The letter A clutched in its beak Creating PeAce From W_R Wooden Rosary: Small enough to hide in a fist Powerful enough to ward off soulless lovers Gilded Portrait of...
The Depths to Which We Need Each Other
Every person has two histories influencing their present actions and future choices. One history is made up of idiosyncrasies, assimilated norms, and life events — the way you hold a pencil, how you dance, the people you’ve loved and their influence on who you’ve...
Kachina Patriarch (poem)
I once walked atop a butte Each footstep greeted by a cloud of red dust The scent of desert sage The pain of us lost in relief — Canyon de Chelly in the near distance Arches another day Soon Mesa Verde — A promise to our shared forgetting: My travelogue and a...
“All sanity depends on this: that it should be a delight to feel heat strike the skin, a delight to stand upright, knowing the bones are moving easily under the flesh.”
— Doris Lessing